On December 29th 2013(which just happened to be my husband's B-Day), I overheard a phone conversation between my husband and his father .Well, you know the old saying that those who eavesdrop inevitably never hear anything nice said about themselves? Well, so it was in this case. I heard the phone ring and being in the room standing directly behind him with one boot partially on and one boot off, I was stuck. I had no choice but to overhear his statement that I am a PIG! Actually the word he used was porker. I know I am a bit overweight but did he HAVE to make that statement to a man whom I have never met, least of all spoken to? To make things worse he said that I work all night and then sleep all day, which is NOT true. He also said that he DOES work around the house which is NOT true unless, he breaks something which then poses an inconvenience so he MUST FIX IT!! I CANNOT sleep during the day and I DO NOT sleep at night because I work the graveyard shift. On my two nights off from work I do what I can, but being 51 soon - to - be 52, I just do NOT have the physical durability anymore. My right foot has a work related injury which involves a blood clot (which moved last night OWWWWCH!!!), my right hip keeps locking up and my lower right forearm is painfully numb and cold. I also have two teeth that have broken apart. I am in constant pain, but I say NOTHING to him because he constantly complains of his own aches and pains. Why should he listen to mine? When I do mention them, he just overides with his as if to say. . ."Mine are worse than yours.".
Anyway, I digress. . . Upon hearing his derogatory comment regarding me, I then knew the basic truth. He calls me a liar and accuses me of taking his hoard of canned goods he keeps under his desk or the pocket change which is mine (from my wages) I am only of value as long as I work and bring in a paycheque. I also knew that my value system is far higher than his. I NEVER make DEROGATORY UNTRUE STATEMENTS ABOUT ANYONE IN MY FAMILY TO ANYONE, NOT EVEN FAMILY unless I am questioned directly regarding an event/circumstances. What makes things even worse is that when he discovered me standing behind him trying to get my boots on, he said that he would have me say hello to his father!!?? OK, kick the dog and then command it to lick the abuser's hand while wagging my tail??? I THINK NOT!!! COMMAND ME ??? DEMAND THAT I SAY hello??? I said "Yeah, when this pig flies!" and I stormed out of the house. If I had awakened just an hour earlier, I would have walked the 3 miles to work and never would have overheard his dirt. We have not spoken a word to each other since that day. I also discovered that my daughter, Cheyann is just as hateful. I asked her for asistance in shoveling out our 500 ft driveway, cleaning out the cat litterbox, etc. She said in a snotty tone," Oh, you've caught me at an inconvenient time!" and continued playing her PS3 game. I said "Life has a way of being inconvenient does it not? Forget it, Bitch!" Found this posted on Edward's FB by Cheyann:
December 29, 2013 at 12:41pm via mobile · Edited ·
Anyway, I digress. . . Upon hearing his derogatory comment regarding me, I then knew the basic truth. He calls me a liar and accuses me of taking his hoard of canned goods he keeps under his desk or the pocket change which is mine (from my wages) I am only of value as long as I work and bring in a paycheque. I also knew that my value system is far higher than his. I NEVER make DEROGATORY UNTRUE STATEMENTS ABOUT ANYONE IN MY FAMILY TO ANYONE, NOT EVEN FAMILY unless I am questioned directly regarding an event/circumstances. What makes things even worse is that when he discovered me standing behind him trying to get my boots on, he said that he would have me say hello to his father!!?? OK, kick the dog and then command it to lick the abuser's hand while wagging my tail??? I THINK NOT!!! COMMAND ME ??? DEMAND THAT I SAY hello??? I said "Yeah, when this pig flies!" and I stormed out of the house. If I had awakened just an hour earlier, I would have walked the 3 miles to work and never would have overheard his dirt. We have not spoken a word to each other since that day. I also discovered that my daughter, Cheyann is just as hateful. I asked her for asistance in shoveling out our 500 ft driveway, cleaning out the cat litterbox, etc. She said in a snotty tone," Oh, you've caught me at an inconvenient time!" and continued playing her PS3 game. I said "Life has a way of being inconvenient does it not? Forget it, Bitch!" Found this posted on Edward's FB by Cheyann:
December 29, 2013 at 12:41pm via mobile · Edited ·
Today may not be so big of a day for the man this status is referring to, but it's big for me, it means we got thru another year of being at eachothers throats. Me constantly bitching, and you always being the support for me. The shoulder I cry on, the joker who can always make me smile and laugh no matter how pissed I am. And where did it all start off? How did we get here? By you, taking a pregnant stranger into your home because she was scared. You, stepping up to the plate, saying you will father the child, and love it like your own. You protected me even before I popped out, you took care of me even though I wasn't yours to take care of, and for that, I thank you. I know someday you won't be there for me anymore, we both know that... But I'm so glad I got to spend another year of both our lives together. You're the kind of guy I wish there was more of in this world, and the parent I shall always look up to. Even when you're walkin me down the aisle! I love you daddy... Happy 57th birthday Edward G. Marshall Sr.!
My Response to the above: What a piece of SHIT !!! 1. Ed and I were NOT strangers! 2. I WAS NOT SCARED!! 3. He did NOT step up to the plate! His being a father to my child when it was born was the only condition for which I would agree to marry him. 4. He did NOT protect her before she was born, I DID!!! 5. So, I am NOT the parent she looks up to?? Guess what, first impressions are always the right ones...6. She DID NOT POP OUT !! I went through over 24 hours of hard labor and was maimed by her (internal injuries).
Cheyann also posted this on her FB 11 hours ago via mobile
Tired from shoveling :I
SHOVELING??? She went out and shoveled only a twenty foot path from the front door to the cellar door. WHAT A WHIMP!!!! I shovelled over 400 feet by 20 feet of our driveway TWICE!!! She is 17 years old and I am 51 !!!
Now that I know how little I am valued, my decisions have become clear to me now. I am SHE WHO MUST ENDURE!!! I WILL survive this without them. I come FIRST!!! As Glenn Close as Marquise Isabelle de Mertuil said in the movie, "Dangerous Liasons" -
"All right. War. "
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